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Intention: An Empath's Secret Superpower In The Workplace

Whoever understands intention wields great personal power in any workplace. When you understand the importance and influence of intention, you gain two magical powers:

  1. It gives you the power to understand anyone
  2. It allows you to create your own reality. 

Human beings, when you narrow it all down, do anything and everything to feel better, or to avoid pain. This is a positive intention. 

The Power to Understand Anyone

If we assume everything everyone does has a positive intent, we simplify so much of life. That coworker who keeps following up with you if you don't answer an email right away is not trying to make you feel bad but trying to make her life easier by getting the answer now to avoid a situation she may be trying to fix. 

That boss who yells at you after you spent so much time and effort on a tough project for him isn't really angry at you, but he may be scared because he needed to get something done for his boss, or else he would get fired. 

When you...

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Why Racism Still Happens In The Workplace: A Spiral Dynamics Perspective

In 1865, the Union won the US Civil War, and slavery became illegal in all states (as in, the states' rights to have it was abolished). 

In 1955, Rosa Parks, tired from a hard day's work, refused to move to the back of the bus. 

It's now 2019, but we are seeing that racism still exists in the corporate workplace. It's subtle, it's hidden. But it's still there in the minds and non-inclusive behaviors of employees. 

It's not just whites discriminating against people of color. It's the majority mindset. A famous Latin manufacturing company will never have a white guy on its leadership team. A large European financial firm will not ever promote any person without an important name of many last name strings into any influential position, or any person over 50 years old. A company in Southeast Asia with a mostly white management team coldly ignores the Asian workers in company parties and instead huddle together in groups, talking to no one else.

As much as many...

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The Thing About Relationships Is... (THIS IS A WAKE UP CALL)

As Empaths in the corporate world, it’s not always all about career. Relationships are a big part of everyone’s lives. The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.  Therefore, it’s essential to pick the right people to hang around and to be with. This story is really important for everyone to take some time to consider. It can save your life one day.

There once was a man who graduated from college and began a corporate job. He is a kind soul who diligently moved up the ladder. Soon, he realized he was turning 30, and thought it was time to settle down. He didn’t have many friends so when his parent’s friends set him up with their daughter, he felt that was his only viable option. He had no other girlfriends in life. Deep inside, he felt he was unworthy.

Have any of you ever felt this way? I think we can all relate at some level, as we are all connected.

Well, they got married because that’s “just what people...

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What To Do When People Don't Reply To Your Messages

Have you ever written a heartfelt message to someone you really cared about -- whether it be someone you enjoyed working with, someone you admire, or maybe your significant other -- and then had the unfortunate experience of seeing that they read your message but have not replied?

Maybe a day or two has passed, and you realized they won't get to your message and you start to think that you must not be important to them, or that you never mattered. If they really cared, they would write back, right? 

 

Why They Don't Respond

There can be many reasons a person won't reply and can range from:

  • They are too busy
  • The message had too much personal content or was too long, and they didn't have enough rapport with you yet
  • The message seemed rude or pushy
  • They don't know the answer to what you were asking (and getting the answer seems too complicated)
  • Writing the answer will take too much thought and time
  • They don't place a high value on their time for you

Many people don't...

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The Secret CURE For Micro-Managing Bosses!

 
Do you remember being hounded by your mother or father to pick up your toys or do some menial task? Do you remember how it made you feel? That if you didn't do it right away, they would act like the world would end? Fast forward to today. Are you feeling triggered by a micromanaging boss? Someone who pings you every day asking for some unimportant administrative detail?
 
Let's look at why this happens, from both perspectives. Managers become micromanaging the same way parents do: because they want certainty in their lives. Micromanaging parents are insecure that their children won't know how to get out of trouble on their own. They cower over them thinking that they will protect them when what they are really doing is robbing them of their ability to make their own mistakes, and their own decisions.  
 
Micromanaging managers are insecure that they will be judged if they do not reach a target. They are insecure because deep inside, they do not feel capable of...
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3 Transformative Ways To Make Your Interview Unforgettable

by: Contributing writer

Have you ever wondered what makes an interview memorable to a manager? Do you struggle with getting noticed even if you have a significant skillset?

Sometimes a bad interview can dampen your vibe, and ruin the chances of getting where you want to be -- whether it be an internal move or landing that dream job. But it doesn't mean you have to pull a circus trick to get noticed. If you study, internalize and incorporate these 3 things, you'll be far ahead of anyone else in being remembered by the recruiter or hiring manager.

Here are 3 things I learned in my journey to make an interview unforgettable.

1) Know Your Purpose In Life

  • What can you do better than anyone else?
  • What can you do more effortlessly than anyone else?
  • What gives you pleasure to do for hours on end which no one asked you to do?
  • What interest could you research or talk about for hours & hours?
  • What would you do if money were no issue?

Often your purpose in life is rooted in what you loved...

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Why KPIs Should Be Obsolete

Managers Take Their Stress Out on Employees

A manager came to us struggling with a peculiar situation: he found out his employees were trashing him behind his back. It turned out that morale started getting very low and toxic after he had yelled at them for not achieving their deadlines on time. He had been under a lot of stress to meet KPIs -- so he would explode in rage to his employees.

This is not an uncommon scenario. People can be scarred by managers' anger, stress and rage taken out on them. Most of the time, the employee's intentions were very good, they gave it their all, yet they were punished. And work was never the same. That's when the environment started to get toxic, not just for the person who bore the brunt of managerial anger, but for everyone.

Maya Angelou said:

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how...
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7 Reasons Why Motivating Unproductive Employees Does Not Work

Why You Shouldn't Motivate An Unproductive Employee

How many of you have run a business, or managed a team which included at least one unproductive employee? Maybe this person has been the bane of your work life, and not being able to depend on them causes you stress? Perhaps after hiring him, you may believe that they have lied about their experience on their CV or resume? 

One of the toughest situations many managers regularly face, especially if they've inherited their team, is dealing with an unproductive employee. Consequently, many managers erroneously believe that the problem is caused by the employee's lack of motivation: If they are not performing, perhaps they need to be motivated. But this is rarely the case, as motivation is simply like placing a bandaid on a gaping wound. It doesn't address the underlying culture issues. 

When they find out inevitably that motivation and listening to them does not work, that's when managers often contact HR to help...

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Scared of DIVORCE? 3 Signs They May Not Be The One

How Can You Know If You Are Marrying The Right Partner?

Tony Robbins' first marriage lasted around 12 years. On his wedding day, he remembered thinking that it "just wasn't right" -- he had an inkling feeling that it wouldn't work out -- yet he went along with it because he didn't want to disappoint her. He, like many people, just wanted to please their partner. But he later found the price of not listening to his intuition: because he ended up leaving her, she allegedly was so resentful, that she drew out the divorce several years and had all of his businesses which he operated personally valued at an 8X multiple, leaving him owing her $42 million dollars of money he did not have. 

So what happened?

1) He didn't listen to his intuition when it called.

2) He betrayed his authenticity by misleading a woman when he only wanted to please her. 

3) That woman became resentful when the truth was revealed and thought she deserved compensation for her hurt by draining him of all...

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Just Inherited A New Boss Who Is TOXIC? Here's What To Do!

Studies show that 80% of people are not happy with their current job -- and the #1 reason is due to their boss being toxic for them. What I've found working in the industry of Human Resources is that most of the time, this is not the boss that hires them, but the boss who inherited them. 

Although there are other influences, the reason is simple: People like those who are similar to them. People will promote, give the best opportunities to, and cut the most slack for people who remind them of themselves. It's not something they are aware of, and often an entirely automatic response of human beings. The boss that hired you thought you were right for the job AND felt a connection to you because you were similar to him/her. The boss that inherits you often will not be like you, so he/she has the mindset of using you as a resource to complete what needs to be done because it's harder to relate to someone unlike themselves. 

It all depends on the boss and the person, whether...

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