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The Secret CURE For Micro-Managing Bosses!

 
Do you remember being hounded by your mother or father to pick up your toys or do some menial task? Do you remember how it made you feel? That if you didn't do it right away, they would act like the world would end? Fast forward to today. Are you feeling triggered by a micromanaging boss? Someone who pings you every day asking for some unimportant administrative detail?
 
Let's look at why this happens, from both perspectives. Managers become micromanaging the same way parents do: because they want certainty in their lives. Micromanaging parents are insecure that their children won't know how to get out of trouble on their own. They cower over them thinking that they will protect them when what they are really doing is robbing them of their ability to make their own mistakes, and their own decisions.  
 
Micromanaging managers are insecure that they will be judged if they do not reach a target. They are insecure because deep inside, they do not feel capable of...
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3 Transformative Ways To Make Your Interview Unforgettable

by: Contributing writer

Have you ever wondered what makes an interview memorable to a manager? Do you struggle with getting noticed even if you have a significant skillset?

Sometimes a bad interview can dampen your vibe, and ruin the chances of getting where you want to be -- whether it be an internal move or landing that dream job. But it doesn't mean you have to pull a circus trick to get noticed. If you study, internalize and incorporate these 3 things, you'll be far ahead of anyone else in being remembered by the recruiter or hiring manager.

Here are 3 things I learned in my journey to make an interview unforgettable.

1) Know Your Purpose In Life

  • What can you do better than anyone else?
  • What can you do more effortlessly than anyone else?
  • What gives you pleasure to do for hours on end which no one asked you to do?
  • What interest could you research or talk about for hours & hours?
  • What would you do if money were no issue?

Often your purpose in life is rooted in what you loved...

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Why KPIs Should Be Obsolete

Managers Take Their Stress Out on Employees

A college friend of mine who is now a manager at another firm had a peculiar situation: he found out his employees were trashing him behind his back. It turned out that morale started getting very low and toxic after he had yelled at them for not achieving their deadlines on time. He had been under a lot of stress to meet KPIs -- so he would explode in rage to his employees.

This is not an uncommon scenario. People can be scarred by managers' anger, stress and rage taken out on them. Most of the time, the employee's intentions were very good, they gave it their all, yet they were punished. And work was never the same. That's when the environment started to get toxic, not just for the person who bore the brunt of managerial anger, but for everyone.

Maya Angelou said:

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did,...
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7 Reasons Why Motivating Unproductive Employees Does Not Work

Why You Shouldn't Motivate An Unproductive Employee

How many of you have run a business, or managed a team which included at least one unproductive employee? Maybe this person has been the bane of your work life, and not being able to depend on them causes you stress? Perhaps after hiring him, you may believe that they have lied about their experience on their CV or resume? 

One of the toughest situations many managers regularly face, especially if they've inherited their team, is dealing with an unproductive employee. Consequently, many managers erroneously believe that the problem is caused by the employee's lack of motivation: If they are not performing, perhaps they need to be motivated. But this is rarely the case, as motivation is simply like placing a bandaid on a gaping wound. It doesn't address the underlying culture issues. 

When they find out inevitably that motivation and listening to them does not work, that's when managers often contact HR to help...

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Scared of DIVORCE? 3 Signs They May Not Be The One

How Can You Know If You Are Marrying The Right Partner?

Tony Robbins' first marriage lasted around 12 years. On his wedding day, he remembered thinking that it "just wasn't right" -- he had an inkling feeling that it wouldn't work out -- yet he went along with it because he didn't want to disappoint her. He, like many people, just wanted to please their partner. But he later found the price of not listening to his intuition: because he ended up leaving her, she allegedly was so resentful, that she drew out the divorce several years and had all of his businesses which he operated personally valued at an 8X multiple, leaving him owing her $42 million dollars of money he did not have. 

So what happened?

1) He didn't listen to his intuition when it called.

2) He betrayed his authenticity by misleading a woman when he only wanted to please her. 

3) That woman became resentful when the truth was revealed and thought she deserved compensation for her hurt by draining him of all...

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Just Inherited A New Boss Who Is TOXIC? Here's What To Do!

Studies show that 80% of people are not happy with their current job -- and the #1 reason is due to their boss being toxic for them. What I've found working in the industry of Human Resources is that most of the time, this is not the boss that hires them, but the boss who inherited them. 

Although there are other influences, the reason is simple: People like those who are similar to them. People will promote, give the best opportunities to, and cut the most slack for people who remind them of themselves. It's not something they are aware of, and often an entirely automatic response of human beings. The boss that hired you thought you were right for the job AND felt a connection to you because you were similar to him/her. The boss that inherits you often will not be like you, so he/she has the mindset of using you as a resource to complete what needs to be done because it's harder to relate to someone unlike themselves. 

It all depends on the boss and the person, whether...

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You Should Get A Gift From Your Boss At Least Once In Your Lifetime And Here's Why

A Short and Touching Story

Once when I had a new job, I casually came across something my boss would like, so I got it for him. Nothing special. I also knew that feeling appreciated was important to him, so I got him a card and wrote him a nice note about how much I appreciated what he did and how he welcomed me into the group. 

It was really nothing special, and I didn't put much thought into it. It just felt perfect at the time, and I went by my intuition. 

That boss and I generally worked well together. I admired him, and he appreciated me. I always did what he said & got his back. He always listened to me and took my advice. 

I didn't think he would get me anything. But when I came back to work, we had a meeting, and I saw a package at his desk. I thought someone had given him something because he was very high on the food chain and many people give him things. 

But after the meeting, he gave it to me. I opened it, and it was an Amazon Echo Dot. He said...

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#1 Reason Why You Are Not Happy With Your Job

The author David Deida used to say "Chronic dissatisfaction is how you sense you are living a lie." 

Most of us come to our jobs reluctantly. Most of us would rather stay home and sleep. Why?

Well, what is it exactly, that gets you out of bed in the morning? What do you choose every day to leave your bed to do? What would you like to do?  what would you rather do?

Think about that for a moment. If you had your physical needs taken care of, what would get you out of bed in the morning? Get out a sheet of paper, and take some time to list them down. I'll still be here. 

Now, beneath this list, write down what you do on a daily basis in your job today. What are the outcomes expected by your role? Why do you go to work every day? Go ahead and write it down, now. 

Now compare the 2 lists. What observations do you see?

Alignment With Your Life Purpose

 The reason most people are dissatisfied by what they do in life is that the outcomes of their job are not...

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5 Types of Toxic Bosses You Should Avoid At All Costs

As much as we try to avoid it, we as human beings are susceptible every day to baser emotions like envy, which results in hurtful gossip, unhealthy comparison to others, and sabotage. All of this contributes to a toxic environment in the workplace. Its effects exacerbate when we find our leaders, management, and bosses do not know how to transmute envy into positive and constructive emotions. 

Here are 5 toxic personas you should avoid at the workplace, especially if they are your boss! 

1.  Mr./Ms. Unpretentious

This type likes to cut the overly superior down to size. We may love this when they are attacking the braggarts, but the downside is - like the crab taking down any other crab that tries to escape the bucket - this type can never appreciate excellence. Their goal is to bring everyone one down to the same mediocre level they are so that they won't feel so bad about themselves. They have very fragile egos themselves. We only want to cut people down to size when...

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The Simple Dirty Trick To Increasing Your Salary By As Much As $20K

Here's a story how one woman used the common "dirty trick" to increase her salary by $20K. 

Disclaimer: This story is for entertainment purposes only. Situations may have been altered or are a mix of real life occurrences. Results may vary. EmpathInTheOffice.com does not assume responsibility or liability for any outcome obtained from acting on the elements in this article.

When I had worked in the line of business as a salaried employee, my mentors advised me never to accept the first salary offered, because the company can always offer more. I learned that most companies hold back on what they would pay you, and I learned several hard negotiating skills, but I never used them because I saw it as overly manipulative, and at the time I didn't have the self confidence I have now. 

However when I started working in HR, I found that the salary which was allocated to the position was mainly what was offered to the last person in...

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