The author David Deida used to say "Chronic dissatisfaction is how you sense you are living a lie."
Most of us come to our jobs reluctantly. Most of us would rather stay home and sleep. Why?
Well, what is it exactly, that gets you out of bed in the morning? What do you choose every day to leave your bed to do? What would you like to do? what would you rather do?
Think about that for a moment. If you had your physical needs taken care of, what would get you out of bed in the morning? Get out a sheet of paper, and take some time to list them down. I'll still be here.
Now, beneath this list, write down what you do on a daily basis in your job today. What are the outcomes expected by your role? Why do you go to work every day? Go ahead and write it down, now.
Now compare the 2 lists. What observations do you see?
Alignment With Your Life Purpose
The reason most people are dissatisfied by what they do in life is that the outcomes of their job are not...
As much as we try to avoid it, we as human beings are susceptible every day to baser emotions like envy, which results in hurtful gossip, unhealthy comparison to others, and sabotage. All of this contributes to a toxic environment in the workplace. Its effects exacerbate when we find our leaders, management, and bosses do not know how to transmute envy into positive and constructive emotions.
Here are 5 toxic personas you should avoid at the workplace, especially if they are your boss!
This type likes to cut the overly superior down to size. We may love this when they are attacking the braggarts, but the downside is - like the crab taking down any other crab that tries to escape the bucket - this type can never appreciate excellence. Their goal is to bring everyone one down to the same mediocre level they are so that they won't feel so bad about themselves. They have very fragile egos themselves. We only want to cut people down to size when...
Here's a story how one woman used the common "dirty trick" to increase her salary by $20K.
Disclaimer: This story is for entertainment purposes only. Situations may have been altered or are a mix of real life occurrences. Results may vary. EmpathInTheOffice.com does not assume responsibility or liability for any outcome obtained from acting on the elements in this article.
When I had worked in the line of business as a salaried employee, my mentors advised me never to accept the first salary offered, because the company can always offer more. I learned that most companies hold back on what they would pay you, and I learned several hard negotiating skills, but I never used them because I saw it as overly manipulative, and at the time I didn't have the self confidence I have now.
However when I started working in HR, I found that the salary which was allocated to the position was mainly what was offered to the last person in...
Worth Is Inherent And Eternal
So many people don't know that you cannot lose self worth. How you choose to live and the meaning you place on you being here in this world is entirely of your choosing.
When the seed of a rose is planted, and the roots start to grow, it may not yet look like a rose, but within that seed it has always been a rose.
If you crumple up a $20 bill, it's still worth $20. If you step on it and bury it in the dirt, it's still worth $20. As long as the $20 is intact, there is nothing you can do to diminish it's value.
People choose to diminish their value by gauging the other people's perceptions of them. The truth is that the only perception that...
The 13th Law of Success in Napoleon Hill's book The Law of Success is about Failure.
There are 2 ways to look at failure -- like a monkey that never leaves your back and sticks to you so much that you believe you are destined for failure on a regular basis, and that you'd never get out of that death spiral -- or you can see it as a magical "redirect".
People who are comfortable with failure know that the Universe has their back. They don't worry because they know they are alive, and no failure has killed them yet.
Why Failure Feels So Bad
What people worry most about failure is actually the fear of death. Because if we don't succeed, we are not worthy, and if we are not worthy, then we won't be loved. And when we are not loved, we feel like we will die.
It's not too far from reality. In the caveman times, we had to be "loved" or accepted into the tribe or we would be cut off from their food, protection and companionship. No one would risk being cut off in that...
Let's be real here. Comparisons to others take up SOOOO much of your time! Time spent insecure about how better looking another colleague looks than you, how much more successful they are and faster moving up the corporate ladder than you, or how much money they have to buy a boat and have a maid.
How many of you have spent days sometimes feeling bad about yourself just because you saw someone else as better than you in some ways? Or spent days at home eating chocolate because you felt you couldn't measure up to the superstar at work? How does all of that super suck?
You can look at people in 3 different ways:
1. As better than you (you are looking up at them / up to them)
2. As inferior to you (you are looking down on them)
3. As equals (no one is better than or worse than you).
The truth is, unless you look at people as equals, you're going to have pain in your life. When you compare yourself to others, you are either in position 1 or 2.
Real Life Lessons...
Have you ever been excited to see someone you have followed on YouTube collaborate with another awesome YouTuber?
Or have you ever been a fan of someone and was introduced to someone you were equally excited about through a social collab?
Most of Empaths tend to be introverts, so the idea of going out of your comfort zone and prospecting someone to help you in your mission can be pretty daunting.
In this article, I explain the #14th Law of Success as written by Napoleon Hill, and how you can use it to increase your success as an Empath in the Office.
Get the book: The Law of Success
Law #14: Cooperation
Understanding the Law of Cooperation is understanding how economics works. The world operates as a system, rather than in sylos. If you look in nature, you see a system of ants moving in cooperation, a hive of bees with compatible functions, even groups of trees that shelter the crops and animals below. As an effect, nature is abundant, with treasure troves of fruit from...
I don't know about you, but I grew up thinking the Golden Rule was too simplistic: Do unto others as you would wish them to do unto you. Nobody really follows it, right? People are self centered and will bully you anyway because no one has the awareness to treat others kindly, I had thought.
People who do not trust the Golden Rule were probably scammed by someone else who didn't follow it. Similarly, people may believe the Golden Rule has more to do with religion than their own lives, so they don't use it. As a non-religious person who has lived a full life of horrors and beauty, I now know that the Golden Rule is one of, if not the most powerful tool to transform your life.
The Golden Rule is so much more profound than you think. It wasn't until I read Napoleon Hill's book The Law of Success that I realized that the Golden Rule is the capstone to your true power, and the ability to become your greatest version and materialize whatever you want.
The golden thread between their teachings, and the most powerful strategy I've found to gain success with absolute certainty is doing what you hate, and doing it first. If you have to fire someone, do it first. If the worst thing of the day for you is getting out of bed into the shower, jump out into that cold shower without thinking.
The reason this works is because it builds POSITIVE MOMENTUM to make real changes in your life. By getting what you hate out of the way, you are freeing up the space for things you want - a much better fit.
By removing that employee that is not a cultural fit, you leave the space for a peak performer that inspires the group.
By jumping into a cold shower without negotiating with your brain on waiting another minute, or that you want to watch a...
How many of you were taught to “prepare your story” for an interview? Career experts would say that you must prepare your story so that there is a logical flow from all the points of the resume, and to embellish each aspect in the best light according to the position… but the reality is, if you have to prepare your story, and embellish it, it’s not really your real story is it? It’s some Hollywood version of your story. It’s not authentic.
What’s the cost to you of not being authentic?
Let’s say you convince a hiring manager to hire you in a job you won’t find long term fulfillment in, because you chose it primarily to look important or make more money. Or suppose you had the right job but was suddenly put under leadership that no longer was a good fit for you, but you did not do anything about it. What happens? Maybe the years will pass by monotonously and one day you’ll wake up wondering why you are not fulfilled in your...
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