I was in a restaurant one day and the waiter came by to show us the specials. Of course, for an empath, we can see when a waiter is just going through a spiel. This waiter sincerely loved everything he was recommending. When we told him what we wanted, no matter how strange, he would bring it out with all the trimmings.
We engaged in very nice conversation and actually got to know each other in a very authentic way. Nothing was forced and everything he said added value to our conversation, our dining experience, and our lives.
However, once we got our entrees, one of us realized he didn't bring out the appetizer, and mentioned it to him. He immediately felt terrible and asked if we still wanted it (we didn't). Then he asked if he could get us extra of anything at all (we didn't need it). However, at the end, he ended up giving us our dessert to rectify the mishap.
We were very happy with the service, and once we were done, we gave him a very good tip and...
A manager once told he that the worst bosses he had taught him the most... now that is an elegant thought but there is only so much suffering we should be allowed to take. The truth is, no one deserves to be treated unfairly by a person in power.
This has to stop. This website is taking part in that (r)evolution.
Most of my career has been under horrible bosses. My old manager was right in that they taught me the most -- they taught me what I was willing to accept in my life and what I wanted real empathy to look like in leadership. I decided to become my own boss. You can do that, too. Here's something to get you started.
1) First realize that being your own boss does not mean starting your own business (but you can, if you want!) Being your own boss means empowering yourself to take responsibility for what you do, and perform quality work because if you were the boss, that's what you'd want. You take on the level of responsibility in your...
Whoever understands intention wields great personal power in any workplace. When you understand the importance and influence of intention, you gain two magical powers:
Human beings, when you narrow it all down, do anything and everything to feel better, or to avoid pain. This is a positive intention.
The Power to Understand Anyone
If we assume everything everyone does has a positive intent, we simplify so much of life. That coworker who keeps following up with you if you don't answer an email right away is not trying to make you feel bad but trying to make her life easier by getting the answer now to avoid a situation she may be trying to fix.
That boss who yells at you after you spent so much time and effort on a tough project for him isn't really angry at you, but he may be scared because he needed to get something done for his boss, or else he would get fired.
As Empaths in the corporate world, it’s not always all about career. Relationships are a big part of everyone’s lives. The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life. Therefore, it’s essential to pick the right people to hang around and to be with. This story is really important for everyone to take some time to consider. It can save your life one day.
There once was a man who graduated from college and began a corporate job. He is a kind soul who diligently moved up the ladder. Soon, he realized he was turning 30, and thought it was time to settle down. He didn’t have many friends so when his parent’s friends set him up with their daughter, he felt that was his only viable option. He had no other girlfriends in life. Deep inside, he felt he was unworthy.
Have any of you ever felt this way? I think we can all relate at some level, as we are all connected.
Well, they got married because that’s “just what people...
Have you ever written a heartfelt message to someone you really cared about -- whether it be someone you enjoyed working with, someone you admire, or maybe your significant other -- and then had the unfortunate experience of seeing that they read your message but have not replied?
Maybe a day or two has passed, and you realized they won't get to your message and you start to think that you must not be important to them, or that you never mattered. If they really cared, they would write back, right?
There can be many reasons a person won't reply and can range from:
Many people don't...
by: Contributing writer
Have you ever wondered what makes an interview memorable to a manager? Do you struggle with getting noticed even if you have a significant skillset?
Sometimes a bad interview can dampen your vibe, and ruin the chances of getting where you want to be -- whether it be an internal move or landing that dream job. But it doesn't mean you have to pull a circus trick to get noticed. If you study, internalize and incorporate these 3 things, you'll be far ahead of anyone else in being remembered by the recruiter or hiring manager.
Here are 3 things I learned in my journey to make an interview unforgettable.
Often your purpose in life is rooted in what you loved...
Worth Is Inherent And Eternal
So many people don't know that you cannot lose self worth. How you choose to live and the meaning you place on you being here in this world is entirely of your choosing.
When the seed of a rose is planted, and the roots start to grow, it may not yet look like a rose, but within that seed it has always been a rose.
If you crumple up a $20 bill, it's still worth $20. If you step on it and bury it in the dirt, it's still worth $20. As long as the $20 is intact, there is nothing you can do to diminish it's value.
People choose to diminish their value by gauging the other people's perceptions of them. The truth is that the only perception that...
Let's be real here. Comparisons to others take up SOOOO much of your time! Time spent insecure about how better looking another colleague looks than you, how much more successful they are and faster moving up the corporate ladder than you, or how much money they have to buy a boat and have a maid.
How many of you have spent days sometimes feeling bad about yourself just because you saw someone else as better than you in some ways? Or spent days at home eating chocolate because you felt you couldn't measure up to the superstar at work? How does all of that super suck?
You can look at people in 3 different ways:
1. As better than you (you are looking up at them / up to them)
2. As inferior to you (you are looking down on them)
3. As equals (no one is better than or worse than you).
The truth is, unless you look at people as equals, you're going to have pain in your life. When you compare yourself to others, you are either in position 1 or 2.
Real Life Lessons...
The golden thread between their teachings, and the most powerful strategy I've found to gain success with absolute certainty is doing what you hate, and doing it first. If you have to fire someone, do it first. If the worst thing of the day for you is getting out of bed into the shower, jump out into that cold shower without thinking.
The reason this works is because it builds POSITIVE MOMENTUM to make real changes in your life. By getting what you hate out of the way, you are freeing up the space for things you want - a much better fit.
By removing that employee that is not a cultural fit, you leave the space for a peak performer that inspires the group.
By jumping into a cold shower without negotiating with your brain on waiting another minute, or that you want to watch a...
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