Recall a time in your business or life where you chose to implement a change, and some people did not take it well. Maybe they left the company or became disengaged. Worse, maybe they tried to sabotage you. What causes this adverse result and how do we fix it?
People handle change differently: they can run the gamut from those who tend to be comfortable with the status quo, and those who like to disrupt old processes and create change. And in the middle of these two are pragmatists who look at the situation from a more objective standpoint.
The secret is that anyone can just as easily be open to change if you do it right. Think about it: Anyone will be on board with change if it’s a change they choose to do rather than change done to them.
So how do we manage the situation of implementing change that others don’t choose? Well, we turn it into a change that they choose to do. Here are 3 simple steps to do so:
Before you can convince...
Ever wonder why some people are vehemently opposed to wearing masks and quarantining, while some are insisting they be worn for the good of the group? Ever wonder why some people are prone to the propaganda of people taking their freedoms away and some are prone to the propaganda of following established social norms?
It turns out that it's not about conspiracy theories, fear, or fake news (although these things come as a result of it); it's really about the predominant psychological temperaments of 2 different groups. The issue of whether or not to wear a mask in society is likely based on whether a person's dominant temperament is affiliative or pragmatic. Read below to see what this means.
Affiliatives vs. Pragmatics
According to depth psychology and Dr. Linda Bairnes, there are 2 different groups of people -- the AFFILIATIVES and the PRAGMATICS.
AFFILIATIVES (55% of people)
A toxic manager once told me that it was his worst bosses who had taught him the most in life. That is an elegant thought but there is only so much suffering we can endure. The truth is, no one deserves to be treated unfairly by a person in power.
Toxic work environments and abuse of power has to stop. This website is taking part in that (r)evolution.
Most of my career has been under horrible bosses. My old manager was right in that they taught me the most -- they taught me what I was willing to accept in my life and what I wanted real empathy to look like in leadership. I decided to become my own boss. You can do that, too. Here's something to get you started.
1) First, realize that being your own boss does not mean starting your own business (but you can if you want!) Being your own boss means empowering yourself to take responsibility for what you do, and perform quality work because if you were the boss, that's what you'd want. You...
Whoever understands intention wields great personal power in any workplace. When you understand the importance and influence of intention, you gain two magical powers:
Human beings, when you narrow it all down, do anything and everything to feel better, or to avoid pain. This is a positive intention.
The Power to Understand Anyone
If we assume everything everyone does has a positive intent, we simplify so much of life. That coworker who keeps following up with you if you don't answer an email right away is not trying to make you feel bad but trying to make her life easier by getting the answer now to avoid a situation she may be trying to fix.
That boss who yells at you after you spent so much time and effort on a tough project for him isn't really angry at you, but he may be scared because he needed to get something done for his boss, or else he would get fired.
In 1865, the Union won the US Civil War, and slavery became illegal in all states (as in, the states' rights to have it was abolished).
In 1955, Rosa Parks, tired from a hard day's work, refused to move to the back of the bus.
It's now 2019, but we are seeing that racism still exists in the corporate workplace. It's subtle, it's hidden. But it's still there in the minds and non-inclusive behaviors of employees.
It's not just whites discriminating against people of color. It's the majority mindset. A famous Latin manufacturing company will never have a white guy on its leadership team. A large European financial firm will not ever promote any person without an important name of many last name strings into any influential position, or any person over 50 years old. A company in Southeast Asia with a mostly white management team coldly ignores the Asian workers in company parties and instead huddle together in groups, talking to no one else.
As much as many...
As Empaths in the corporate world, it’s not always all about career. Relationships are a big part of everyone’s lives. The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life. Therefore, it’s essential to pick the right people to hang around and to be with. This story is really important for everyone to take some time to consider. It can save your life one day.
There once was a man who graduated from college and began a corporate job. He is a kind soul who diligently moved up the ladder. Soon, he realized he was turning 30, and thought it was time to settle down. He didn’t have many friends so when his parent’s friends set him up with their daughter, he felt that was his only viable option. He had no other girlfriends in life. Deep inside, he felt he was unworthy.
Have any of you ever felt this way? I think we can all relate at some level, as we are all connected.
Well, they got married because that’s “just what people...
Have you ever written a heartfelt message to someone you really cared about -- whether it be someone you enjoyed working with, someone you admire, or maybe your significant other -- and then had the unfortunate experience of seeing that they read your message but have not replied?
Maybe a day or two has passed, and you realized they won't get to your message and you start to think that you must not be important to them, or that you never mattered. If they really cared, they would write back, right?
There can be many reasons a person won't reply and can range from:
Many people don't...
Tony Robbins' first marriage lasted around 12 years. On his wedding day, he remembered thinking that it "just wasn't right" -- he had an inkling feeling that it wouldn't work out -- yet he went along with it because he didn't want to disappoint her. He, like many people, just wanted to please their partner. But he later found the price of not listening to his intuition: because he ended up leaving her, she allegedly was so resentful, that she drew out the divorce several years and had all of his businesses which he operated personally valued at an 8X multiple, leaving him owing her $42 million dollars of money he did not have.
So what happened?
1) He didn't listen to his intuition when it called.
2) He betrayed his authenticity by misleading a woman when he only wanted to please her.
3) That woman became resentful when the truth was revealed and thought she deserved compensation for her hurt by draining him of all...
Once when I had a new job, I casually came across something my boss would like, so I got it for him. Nothing special. I also knew that feeling appreciated was important to him, so I got him a card and wrote him a nice note about how much I appreciated what he did and how he welcomed me into the group.
It was really nothing special, and I didn't put much thought into it. It just felt perfect at the time, and I went by my intuition.
That boss and I generally worked well together. I admired him, and he appreciated me. I always did what he said & got his back. He always listened to me and took my advice.
I didn't think he would get me anything. But when I came back to work, we had a meeting, and I saw a package at his desk. I thought someone had given him something because he was very high on the food chain and many people give him things.
But after the meeting, he gave it to me. I opened it, and it was an Amazon Echo Dot. He said...
I don't know about you, but I grew up thinking the Golden Rule was too simplistic: Do unto others as you would wish them to do unto you. Nobody really follows it, right? People are self centered and will bully you anyway because no one has the awareness to treat others kindly, I had thought.
People who do not trust the Golden Rule were probably scammed by someone else who didn't follow it. Similarly, people may believe the Golden Rule has more to do with religion than their own lives, so they don't use it. As a non-religious person who has lived a full life of horrors and beauty, I now know that the Golden Rule is one of, if not the most powerful tool to transform your life.
The Golden Rule is so much more profound than you think. It wasn't until I read Napoleon Hill's book The Law of Success that I realized that the Golden Rule is the capstone to your true power, and the ability to become your greatest version and materialize whatever you want.
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